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December 11, 2010 by  
Filed under Aspire to Inspire, Just me


As the holidays approach, I’m more aware than ever of the need to stretch. When I say stretch, I really mean s-t-r-e-t-c-h in every sense of the word.

Stretch Yourself

As a single Mum, my time is at a premium and everyone requires a piece of me.

Obviously my boss requires me to earn my pay, and being a friend he confuses the line between working and not: calling me at any time – day, night, weekday, and weekend.  When I started my blog, I knew I needed to understand social media in order to pay it forward to people who needed encouragement to reinvent themselves.  I was  very busy, but a friend asked if I could do him a favor and brief his company on the topic.   Within weeks  my work hours were cut, thank goodness my friends company was  so enthused by my presentation they hired me to run their social media.   He still calls me all hours, frequently to tell me to stop work because the day is finished and my bonus just arrived – a couple of  Flat Screen TVs and an entertainment console.

Stretch Time

My children expect me to be their chauffeur, cook, maid, coach, personal assistant /social secretary, personal shopper and general factotum. Plus with the holidays we have end of season functions, for charity, school ‘holiday’ events and more. Since we live on a different continent from our family there is only me so it’s a stretch trying to be everywhere. Of course, I don’t have to worry where they are, or what they are doing I’m there.

Then of course there is my personal life, OMG  I’m so funny… did you read that, personal life – yeah right working on that one..

Stretch Body

I practice Pilates several times a week, a stretch that helps tone and strengthen without bulking up, a serious tendency for anyone who has spent time in a wheel chair or on crutches.

Stretch Emotionally

Being a Volleyball coach for my daughter’s team has also stretched me physically, mentally and emotionally, working with a team of 12 girls ages 12-14 (oh dear Lord what possessed me) that is waaayyy too many hormones in one room. Learning to communicate has been interesting – like the Chinese curse “May you live in interesting times”.  How can they hug you one moment and give you the look of death the next?  I’m now realizing that everyone has these issues with their kids and as such its ‘normal’. Today was our final game of the season; we won the game 3-0 and our age bracket, and a fitter, slightly slimmer Laine was asked to coach next season.

Stretch Mind

Then there is the challenge, Brandy Mychals -14 day blog challenge I’ve been getting nagged about blogging more so the challenge was just what I needed although joining on the fly, and without anything prepared was a wee bit daunting. The beginning was totally frantic but as I opened up, possibilities flooded in and a change occurred.  I’ve never really considered myself to be a writer but rather someone who writes as a means to an end, in my own hyperbolic wordy style.  the lack of prep time made my blog posts more reactive and less composed finding a positive response, people  I respect and admire are complimenting my writing and better still  connected with my subject matter and words on and off the challenge.

Asked to do too much

I recently read a quote “just because someone throws you the ball doesn’t mean you have to catch it” meaning: when too many people are asking you to do too many things — step back and decide what you really want to do.

I realize that I have a problem saying  “NO”,  I know it’s possible to say “I’m sorry” or “oh dear” but that wouldn’t be me.   

Choose to Stretch Yourself

Take it as an opportunity that you wouldn’t have had otherwise. In my case it’s allowed me to grow, stretch and be more than I was before.

Do yourself a favor, stretch beyond what is comfortable, push yourself to a place you don’t normally go – the benefits can be amazing.



10 Responses to “Stretch”
  1. Fiona Stolze says:

    Laine, this was great. I think that you are doing a fabulous job and deserve a medal. I really take my hat off to you. And you’re so right about the stretching. It’s taking an opportunity to grow, as long as we take care that we aren’t collapsing in the process. Your pilates sounds like just the right thing. I practise yoga stretches and just did some before I found your post. Thanks for sharing this right now. :-) x

    Fiona Stolze

  2. Laine D. says:

    I always feel better after I’ve done my Pilates – just have to force myself to take time 😀 Sometimes just thinking about what you do as stretching helps …

    You know lots of it is fun if you let it be… not sure my car agrees, funny thing is I used to drive for fun 😀

    Hope the weather in the UK isn’t affecting you to badly.
    Laine D

  3. Every few monthes I take an inventory of my committments. Sometimes you have to let things go. I think when you have children at home it is hard to say no to them or their activities. I love my empty nest and remember those days. I wonder how I ever got anything done.

  4. You remind me of the saying “If you want something done give it to a busy person!” Oh my, how do you do it all? There are days when I feel like I’ve stretched myself too thin, but I’m always glad I did when I reap the benefits of the end result.

    Sharon Hiebing
    Follow Your Dream Compass

  5. Gail Nott says:

    Laine, I like your take on being “stretched”. I know that if I’m feeling uncomfortable doing something, and the action is in alignment with my mission, I’ll do it anyway & say to myself “I’m growing!” Congrats on your progress on the blogging challenge. I look forward to reading more!

  6. Laine D. says:

    Yes Julia we do reviews too… usually when the girls are moaning about their deliverables, basically we grade things according to why we do them a) service b) commitment orientated c) just for fun and that puts an end to the debate.

    I wonder sometimes how I do it but … it will all be over soon enough when they go off to college.

    Laine D.

  7. Laine D. says:

    I do feel like a hamster in a wheel sometimes but so many of the things that the girls do are valuable, they’ve been doing martial arts for 8 years so hopefully they won’t have to work in fast food but can do that instead when they go to college. Volleyball is also a scholarship option as is Honor Society.

    I don’t mind driving to sit, because I get to write – the hard one is driving and then driving back with no break.

    Its just like any other investment I think, you have to monitor it and make sure you’re not upside down in the investment 😀

    Laine D.

  8. Laine D. says:

    Thank you Gail,

    Our boundaries and ‘the’ boundaries are not going to be stretched by us looking at them but only by us extending them and ourselves. Any form of growth is painful which is why doing it in small increments is beneficial, I think that is why this has worked for me. Not that I’m not tired ~ but I’m find inspiration in constantly asking myself “whats next”, shall I do more of the same or strike out in a different direction? My mandate was always information, inspiration and reinvention, encouraging people to aspire to inspire which allows me to share my research, growth and the stories of others but since reinvention stories are not wholly my work I didn’t want to publish those this week.

    Laine D.

  9. i like your points of view.i agree sometimes ppl strech you so much that you lose your original shape.


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