Wednesday, January 17, 2018

Five Simple Rules To Be Happy

June 10, 2010 by  
Filed under Aspire to Inspire

Hateful people are everywhere. You know the ones that rain on your parade no matter how AWESOME of a float you have? The nay sayers:  you can’t do that, you should not do that, your product is not good enough, your product is too expensive, I do not like sales people, you will never make any money at that, what you do is a hobby not a business, and of course the ‘ALL network marketing at home business companies are a scam’ people.

How do we do it, wade through all of the negativity keeping our heads up high and walking with pride?  Well yesterday I got an email (a chain letter but I read these sometimes because they do cover  important issues), this one dealt with negativity. Here is the email.

“A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each  morning by eight o’clock, with his hair fashionably combed and shaved  perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today.
His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After  many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, he smiled  sweetly when told his room was ready.
As he maneuvered his walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description  of his tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on his window.  I love it,’ he stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just  been presented with a new puppy.

Mr. Jones, you haven’t seen the room; just wait.’

‘That doesn’t have anything to do with it,’ he replied.  “Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time.  Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is  arranged … it’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it. ‘It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice;  I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the  parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful  for the ones that do”.

“Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open, I’ll focus on the new day  and all the happy memories I’ve stored away.. Just for this time in my life.
Old age is like a bank account. You withdraw from what you’ve put in.
So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank  account of memories”!

Wow – what do you say when someone shares that type of information, even if it comes in a chain email.

Thank you for your part in filling my Memory Bank.  I am still depositing.

Remember the 5 simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.

That’s it,  you don’t need the ‘forward to 20 people or be crushed by a falling building’! Just 5 simple rules to live by, worth a try hmm?

And who am I to share this advice?

When I graduated from High School I was awarded the Joe Francomano Junior Achievement Entrepreneurial Scholarship and was bound for better things.  But after 2 years trying to track down my parent to get financial information for FAFSA I admitted defeat and like Bill Gates I quit college.

I tried my hand at HARD SALES for 10 months, representing companies like Staples, Quill, and AT&T but was forced to QUIT on ethical grounds and I realized that Sales wasn’t my thing.    I started work for a company which provides affordable funerals, and loved it but it was barely at a living wage.  It did however help me regain my confidence and develop my skills.  After another false start working for a Title company, my boyfriend encouraged me to reassess my goals , I realized I was WAY OFF my original plan to get a degree in business and take an admin position at a not for profit.  Four months later I secured a position at a College of Fine Arts and went back to school part time.

In fall 2008 I received my Associates Degree in Business Administration with an emphasis in Accounting and began to think hard about what I should do with my degree.  With my full time position to sustain me, I knew I needed something to sustain my entrepreneurial soul, after reviewing many businesses I decided AVON gave me the best chance of survival and growth.

It has been a bumpy ride and I learned a lot from the adventure, its definitely NOT EASY getting customers on a shoe string budget but I’m making progress.  I am now working on returning the investment from the Joe Francomano scholarship.  No more PLAYING around. It is time to focus on becoming independent.

The BIGGEST LESSON I ‘ve learned is to keep plugging away; sometimes the growth is so gradual that you do not even realize you are growing.  Another lesson was that I need to be more friendly (I have never been the most popular and probably never will be since I march to my own drum);  to really make it in a home business you have to stop focusing on yourself and learn to make friends along the way, those friends will help you succeed.

I made Unit Leader this year, which means I have recruited 5 people and my team is selling $1200 in product total every two weeks. This gives me residual income from the hard work and training I have provided for my team, so it’s all worth it!

In order to keep on track I write a blog called: Adventures of a Juggling Artist,  I post positive pep talks, funny stories, heart warming moments, and updates on my AVON business.  I’m in the middle of living, learning, laughing and invite you to share my experiences and hoping you will share yours!

Heidi Walker is a Unit Leader for Avon Cosmetics, a Finance Assistant  at Kansas City Art Institution and a Co-owner at Integral Real Estate Investments.  Heidi  says “my blog is to help me and others to keep a positive outlook on their goals and to get a few laughs out of it too ~ Life is not worth living without laughter”.  Her blog is Adventures of a Juggling Artist”   If you would like to order Avon products or learn more about Avon’s compensation plan and her Twitter id is



7 Responses to “Five Simple Rules To Be Happy”
  1. Leah Oviedo says:

    Thank you for sharing your journey and your 5 points to happiness Heidi.

    Sales was never my thing either. It took me a while to realize this and because I stayed in sales so long I can always go back if I really must. NowI prefer to work with people, like when I teach website design. It’s been a very bumpy road with potholes and dirt patches, but I can look back and see how I have changed for the better. Life is funny that way, you never know what you’ll learn, but if you pay attention you will learn a lot.

    For me I realized that life is easier when you survive the bad times and focus on the good that is all around us.

  2. Mari-lyn says:

    Thanks for the reminder about happiness, as you said, it’s a choice an easy choice..We are in sales everyday, selling ourselves so what do we want people to remember us by?

  3. Laine says:

    Thanks Mari-Lyn.
    Happiness is vital and sharing it with everyone you know brings us full circle.

    Hope you will visit again and maybe I’ll get up to Sedona to try your pies.

    Laine D.

  4. Laine,

    That’s really a humbling example. We can learn so much from people like this 92 year old man. Thanks for sharing.


  5. Laine says:

    Hi Chris,

    Isn’t that the truth – its all about mindset! Heidi had sent this to me direct, and it touched me deeply so I begged her to publish it here. I really think that when you decide you will like something or can do something it does seem to get easier – a lesson to share with our children I think.

    Thanks and I look forward to reading your blog Life’s Lessons in the 21st Century,
    again soon.


  6. Franziska San Pedro says:

    Hi Laine,

    Love is the only truth and if there are people who still didn´t get that message, all you can do is send them love and continue your journey. Listen to your own voice and follow it, if you learn how to do that then everything comes naturally and it doesn´t matter what people are saying.

    The 92(8)-year-old has lived his life exactly that way: with love. The person he is, isn´t something you become as you get old, it´s a choice you do every single day.
    I love your posts and of course your blog,
    @Flavor Designs

  7. admin says:

    Hi Franziska,

    I couldn’t agree more, you perspective colors everything you are and do. There may be times when it is hard but.. I was confined to a wheelchair for a couple of years and while the pain and limitation was horrible for a formerly active person – I learned a lot from the experience and it has made me a better person 😀 .

    Loved your latest eco tip and wish you would share it here in my Sense & ‘Cents’ibility section:

    See you in the Inspirational Book Club

    Keep smiling

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